We all have some expectations from our relationships, friends and people around us. Sometimes for support, sometimes for understanding and sometimes for companionship, but many times these expectations become the cause of our sadness.
When the other person does not behave as per our expectations, disappointment, anger and complaints start increasing in the mind. In such a situation, the message of Srimad Bhagavad Gita is as relevant even today as it was during the Mahabharata period.
Lord Shri Krishna not only gave Arjun the knowledge of war but also taught him how to live life better. Geeta tells that a person should not be excessively dependent on others for his happiness and mental peace. Having high expectations, especially from people with certain temperaments, can often lead to unhappiness.
Why do expectations become the cause of problems?
We often see people from our perspective. We think that as we think for others, other people will also think for us, but every person’s nature, thinking and priorities are different. The message of Shri Krishna is clear that the higher the expectations, the greater the possibility of disappointment. Therefore, it is important to understand people and behave according to their nature.
1. Don’t expect selfless support from selfish people
Those who think only about themselves change with the circumstances. According to Geeta, it is not considered right to expect selfless cooperation from a person who only gives importance to his own benefits and interests. Such people stay together as long as they see their own benefits. You must have seen such people around you, who ask for help when needed, but when it is your turn, they start making excuses. Having high expectations from such people often makes one feel sad.
2. Do not leave responsibility to a lazy and workless person
It is useless to expect success without effort. Lord Krishna has described karma as the biggest basis of life. The famous message of Geeta is that man has authority only over his actions. It can be difficult to expect a person who avoids working hard to complete any work on time or fulfill any responsibility. Such people often lose even good opportunities. Suppose, for some important work, you trust a person who always procrastinates. The result will be that your work will also be affected and tension in relationships will also increase.
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3. Don’t expect balance from people with angry and unstable nature
Anger weakens a person’s ability to think and understand. In Gita, anger has been described as the biggest enemy of man. When a person is angry, he may lose the ability to differentiate between right and wrong. Expecting calm behaviour, patience or understanding from such people often leads to disappointment. People who get angry over small things can create unnecessary tension in relationships. This does not mean that one should stay away from such people, rather it may be wise to limit one’s expectations from them.
4. An egoistic person is less able to understand the feelings of others.
Pride often creates distance in relationships. People who are proud of their knowledge, position, money or achievements often ignore the needs and feelings of others. According to Geeta, ego takes a person away from reality. An egoistic person considers his own words and thoughts to be the most correct. Expectations of sensitivity, cooperation or emotional support from such people are rarely fulfilled. If you repeatedly expect respect or understanding from such a person, then it is natural to be disappointed.
Focus on your actions rather than expectations
The biggest message of Shri Krishna is that man should focus on his duty and efforts, and not on the behavior or results of others. When we take responsibility for our own happiness, the mind remains more calm. This does not mean maintaining distance from relationships, but accepting them as they are. Every person’s limitations and nature are different, if we learn to understand people instead of changing them, then many problems of life can automatically reduce. Geeta teaches us to have expectations, but with wisdom. Expecting too much from selfish, lazy, angry and egoistic people can increase mental stress and disappointment. It is better to strengthen your actions, thinking and self-confidence.
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