Siya Goyal Case Big Lessons: After the arranged marriage is finalized, some things should be kept in mind. Learn 7 red flags from Sia Goyal case, which should not be ignored.
Relationship Warning Signs: Arranged marriage does not just mean the meeting of two families, but it is the beginning of a new relationship between two unknown people. The time period after engagement and just before marriage is called ‘courtship period’. This time is not just for roaming around or posting photos on social media, but for deeply understanding each other’s nature and what is in their mind. The recent high-profile Ketan Agarwal murder case from Pune has once again raised the question whether we are able to really know our future partner before marriage? Whether the relationship is an arranged marriage or a love marriage, there are some signs which ignoring them can prove costly later. Let us know about 7 such ‘red flags’ visible before marriage, which should never be ignored as trivial and which should be immediately paid attention to…
frequent hesitation or procrastination regarding marriage
Relationship experts say, ‘If your partner finds excuses to postpone the wedding date even after the relationship is finalized or shows constant hesitation in the conversation, then this can be the first big sign.’ If the other person sometimes seems very excited about the marriage and sometimes suddenly talks about backing out or postponing the marriage, then do not ignore it as just ‘marriage nervousness’. Even in the Pune case, Sia had earlier expressed hesitation in front of the family regarding marriage. Every person needs time to think, but constantly changing decisions can be a sign that he is not completely ready from within for this relationship. In such a case, sit alone with them and ask them openly what is the real problem. Be alert if they twist things around instead of giving straight answers every time.
emotional distance in relationship
Many people appear fine on the surface or in front of others, but are not emotionally connected to you in private. If your conversation is only formal, like – ‘Have you eaten?’ or ‘How was your day?’, and if they seem to have no interest in future planning, then this is a big warning sign. In such a situation, don’t just go by the pictures on social media, expensive gifts or ‘I Love You’ written in messages, but pay attention to their actual behavior to see how much they care for you.
Excessive privacy regarding phone and social life
Everyone needs their own personal space in a relationship, but there is a lot of difference between privacy and secrecy (hiding things). If your partner constantly hides his social life, friends or daily activities from you, is overly possessive about his phone or suddenly some documents (like Ketan’s passport in the Pune case) start disappearing mysteriously, then it is natural to raise questions. Experts say that it is good to have trust in a relationship, but not blindly. If something seems strange, talk about it.
Decision taken under family pressure
In the Pune murder case, it came to light that Siya did not want to break the engagement and run away, because she was afraid of ‘bringing shame to the family’. Many times young people say yes to marriage just to please their parents or for the sake of social status, whereas deep inside they want someone else or are against this relationship. Such a reluctant beginning later ruins the lives of both of them. Relationship experts say, before tying the vows of marriage, definitely confirm with your partner whether this decision is of their own free will or just due to some family pressure.
lying and making excuses about small things
Whether a lie is small or big, it weakens the foundation of the relationship. If a person repeatedly hides little things or makes strange excuses when caught, this is a huge red flag. Like in the Pune case, Sia had ‘pretended to look like a snake’ when her first attempt to push her into the ditch failed. Experts say, do not ignore it by saying ‘it is a small thing’. Keep an eye on their lying patterns to see how far they can go to hide the truth.
No clarity regarding future and career
Where to live after marriage? What are your plans regarding career? How will you handle financial responsibilities? If the other person’s answers to these important and basic questions change every time or they avoid the issue by laughing, then it means that they are not serious about this relationship. Relationship experts say, instead of talking only romantically during the courtship period, discuss these practical and life-related issues openly.
A lot of show off on social media, but distance from real conversation
Nowadays, it is very easy to portray yourself as the happiest couple on Instagram or Facebook. Even in the Pune case, Sia was posting romantic reels and birthday countdown with Ketan, while in reality she was planning a murder. The biggest mistake of today’s youth is to assume that a relationship is perfect after seeing romantic pictures. Relationship experts say, move the relationship forward not by looking at the ‘reels’ of social media, but by looking at the ‘real’ personality and behavior of the person.