Girlfriend Past Relationship: A modern dating story featuring friends in past hookups. Is love enough to move forward without insecurity and judgment? So let’s tell the whole story.
Modern Dating Story: Many times we fall in love with a person whose past we know. Although these things do not matter at the time of love, but the question is whether its impact is visible later in life. A 22 year old boy is struggling with this question. He knows his girlfriend’s history and his own too. Both of them spent the night with each other’s friend. So let us tell the whole story in the words of the boy.
Sharing the story of their relationship on Reddit, the boy said, “My 21-year-old girlfriend and I are part of college Greek life (parties, social events, dating culture). I’ve hung out with some of the girls from her sorority and she’s hooked up with my fraternity. Although I don’t know his name. I am sure that even he would not know the names of the people with whom I spent the night.
Friends’ warning that the relationship will not last long.
The boy further tells that our relationship is still very new, but I really like her very much. I never judge him. Neither of us can change nor control what we did in the past. If I ever felt like taking out my insecurities on him, I would rather end the relationship than do so. Despite all this, my friends warn me not to have too many expectations from that girl regarding this relationship. I know they want the best for me, so I don’t feel bad.
Are you haunted by the fear of the past?
The boy further tells that when I was 19 years old, I had dated a girl and that relationship had spoiled my mental health. I had become very insecure and started linking my entire value to my sexual performance. So I had decided at that time that if my partner slept with someone I knew, I would not tolerate it.
Can this relationship also affect my mental health?
I think the impact of that feeling is still with me. However, I am taking therapy to get out of this. Now I am in love with a girl who is already in a relationship with my friends, although I don’t know her name, yet I am afraid that I might become that 19 year old boy and start getting mentally disturbed.
Now many of you might be thinking, ‘When there is so much trouble, why take this relationship forward?’ The answer is that I like that girl very much. She is a good girl. I want to ask whether I should stay in this relationship or get out.
people’s opinion
People’s opinion is that you are thinking in the right direction. The future will decide whether the relationship works or not, but spoiling today’s relationship by using the past as a reason is neither good for you nor for him.
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