Love Story: A boy is struggling with inner fear and confusion despite his perfect relationship of 1.5 years. The love is deep, the relationship is strong, but due to lack of experience, financial stress and lack of understanding of herself, she is afraid of breakup.
Breakup Fear Story: Many times everything is going well in a relationship, but an inner fear suddenly knocks. That fear that something might go wrong. The relationship should not break. Something similar happens in this story also. A 24-year-old young man shared this fear on Reddit and asked how to handle the fear of breakup growing inside him. So let’s tell the whole story.
enjoy spending time with each other
While sharing the story on Reddit, the young man wrote, ‘I am 24 years old and my girlfriend is 21. Our relationship has been going on for 1.5 years. To be honest, the relationship is great, healthy, full of love, we enjoy spending time with each other, our life goals are also similar. Everything was going well… until a strange fear arose inside me.
Love story started after breaking leg
The young man further wrote, ‘I was a virgin till the age of 24. Grew up in a small town, where people with similar interests and thinking like mine were rarely found. So connecting with girls, or living a dating life, has never been easy. I focused on my career and earning money. Then I went to visit another city with friends and there my life started changing. I broke my leg during the trip, all my plans got ruined. But he started talking to a girl in the same city. Due to injury we could not meet then, but after returning home the conversation continued. This was the first time that a girl kept talking to me for so long.
The first meeting was beautiful
After a few months I went to meet him again. We spent 5 days together, and everything felt natural, beautiful and special. At the same time, we also got physical. The girl i.e. girlfriend is always very clear and confident. I could never express my inner fear to her. I felt that if I tried my best, the relationship would take care of itself. This continued for one and a half years. But 1-2 months ago my financial condition became very bad. And with that, doubts and insecurities started deepening inside me. She never asks for money nor wants anything. But I always want to give him the best. Today, when I am not able to do this, I feel embarrassed in front of myself.\
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Now a question arises in my mind-
I never gave anyone else a chance, let alone anyone else… so do I really know what I want? If I continue to be stuck in these questions, might I end the relationship after 2-3 years thinking the same thing? Then there will be even bigger loss. The biggest thing is that there is no flaw in this relationship. The girl is a good person, like a wife, like a partner and like a future. I am comfortable with him. But the insecurity and uncertainty inside me is eating away at me. I don’t understand how to get out of this.
How will the young man get out of this fear?
To overcome this fear, the young man must first understand his emotional confusion and not doubt the relationship. This fear is not actually of breakup, but of losing oneself, taking wrong decisions and financial insecurity. The solution is not to end the relationship, but to talk honestly with your partner about your feelings. Only when he openly tells about his worries, financial tension, lack of confidence and less experience, the burden on his mind will be lightened. You can also take therapy to overcome your fear.
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