The 25-year-old girl was shaken when she read her boyfriend’s birthday card. Not only this, when she asked her lover about the secret hidden in the card, instead he blamed her. The whole story will tell you what are called red flags in a relationship.
Relationship Red Flag: Although there is some big secret hidden in everyone’s life, but when it comes out, many times it shakes the relationship. The reason behind this is lack of trust in the relationship and hiding the truth. Something similar happened with a 25-year-old girl, when she read her boyfriend’s old birthday card and her world changed. The girl shared her grief on Reddit and sought people’s opinion.
The girl wrote that she grew up in a family where Christmas and birthday cards were kept decorated in the house. Which anyone can pick up and read. So when she saw some cards on her boyfriend’s shelf, it seemed perfectly normal to her. He picked up a card out of curiosity.
But she was stunned as soon as she read the card. The card was from her boyfriend’s ‘female best friend’ and read, ‘I can’t wait to marry you’, referring to their engagement. The date was last year. The girl was shocked after reading this, she was further surprised that the girl who had given that card to her boyfriend was living with her. The girl told that her boyfriend is still living with the same ‘best friend’. The woman was told till now that they were just roommates and good friends, not that they had ever been fiancées.
On the contrary, the boy cited privacy
After knowing the truth, the girl asked her boyfriend and told that he read the card by mistake. He also apologized for reading the personal card. But instead of telling his truth, the boyfriend called it ‘betrayal’. He said that no one should read private correspondence and that he had crossed the limits of his privacy. He even said that now he is unable to understand how to build a life with a person who does not respect privacy.
Did the girl really violate the limits?
In her defense, the woman said that she did not know that the card kept on the shelf could be private. Where the boyfriend should have apologized for hiding the truth, on the contrary he is angry with her. At the same time, when the girl asked for advice on the social media platform Reddit, did she really cross the line, or was she herself in a relationship where the truth was being hidden from her? So thousands of users termed the boyfriend as a ‘red flag’.
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Is this manipulation?
People said that the real issue was not the reading of the card, but that he hid the fact of living with his ex-fiancée. Many users described this relationship as manipulative. He said that a person who hides important information loses the right to trust.
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