Relationship Red Flags: When a girl returns from her work trip, her fiance’s suspicion, anger and ultimatum shake the foundation of the entire relationship. Now she’s wondering if it’s okay to marry someone with such behavior or if it’s a serious red flag.
Toxic Relationship Sings: When you move forward to get married after being in a relationship for 5 years, it seems that you understand each other very well. Trust each other, trust each other. But sometimes even 5 years is not enough to understand each other. A small incident lays the foundation of your relationship. As in this story. A 32-year-old woman has shared the story of her relationship on Reddit and asked for advice.
The woman told that her marriage is after 8 months. Everything has been decided. Dreams, plans, preparations…but one night her fiance’s behavior revealed something that shook her. According to the woman, she had returned from a 2-week work trip. One night she messaged her fiancé that she was going out for drinks with her female manager. The phone was on work mode, so she did not see the message from her fiance.
Fiance called again
An hour later the fiance called. The woman replied on auto text – I will call later. But the fiance did not like this. The next second he called again. According to the woman, she picked up the call. But the fiance said in an angry tone, ‘Why are you disconnecting my call?’ What is this new behaviour?
misbehaved in front of manager
She was surprised and embarrassed by this tone of her fiance, because her manager could hear everything. After this the woman moved away from there and tried to convince him peacefully. She said I was not ignoring. I am sharing my location. You know who I’m with. This has happened before also, when I am talking to mom.
The woman asked for space
But the woman’s fiancé did not calm down and said, ‘It seems you did not want me to see you.’ The woman was shocked to hear this. He felt that he had not done anything worthy of suspicion in the 5 year long relationship. Why is he saying this this time? She was so hurt that she said such things hurt her. Will talk later. So that they can calm their emotions and have a healthy conversation.
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threatened to cancel the marriage
But the fiance got angry here also. He said, ‘If you ask for space on such small things, how will the marriage work? If you don’t answer, I will ask my parents to cancel the marriage. The woman felt that this was a glimpse of our future?
That’s why I’m asking strangers here, because I’m so emotionally broken that I can’t trust my own judgment. Is this something that can be resolved with emotional maturity and conversation? Or is it showing me that we’re not ready for marriage?
Many comments came on this post of the woman. Some people talked about leaving her, while some suggested meeting together and discussing the future of the relationship.
Can this relationship improve?
Yes…but on one condition. He should recognize his behavior. Meet and talk openly with you. Get ready for relationship counseling. Learn to control anger and insecurity. Drive the conversation through listening and understanding, not through threats. But if he is not ready to accept his behavior as a problem, then this relationship will have no future.
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