Psychologist Tips: It is said that mother-daughter or mother-son should be the best friend. But psychologists do not consider it right. Let’s know, the reason behind this.
Parentification Effect: In TV shows and films, mother-daughter or mother-son relationships are often shown as ‘Best Friends’. Shows like Gilmore Girls or Ginny and Georgia are its exam. But the psychologist believes that in real life this relationship is not as healthy as shown on the screen. Such a situation in psychology is called parentiification. So let’s know what happens parents and why they are not right.
What is parentification
Parentification is a psychological condition, in which the child is given more responsibilities than his age. That is, to get the child to work or expect that is actually the work of elders. It is also called Role Reversal, where the child takes care of the parents, rather than take care of the parents. Sometimes children become mother’s therapists, cheerleaders or family pieces. Many times they also get responsibilities like paying bills or handling financial problems.
In a conversation with The Mirror, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Robin Koslovitz states that it is not a normal closure or friendship. The real problem begins when the child loses his childhood innocence to meet the needs of his parents.
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Due to emotional parentification
According to Psychology Today, emotional parentification can occur due to many reasons:-
Some parents do not know how to handle their feelings and become dependent on children.
Many times this pattern itself has faced the parents in their childhood.
Drug addiction or mental illnesses can also cause this.
In this situation, the child mediates in the relationships of parents, witnessing their economic problems or dating struggles.
What is the effect on children?
- The innocent time of childhood is lost.
- Children can be a victim of mental pressure and anxiety.
- There is an imbalance in relationships.
Solution and healing
According to a psychologist, the parentification can be removed. Therapy can prove to be helpful in this. The most important is to set boundaries. As the child grows up, he should understand that he is not the main support of his parents. It is very important to give priority to your own needs and mental health.
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