Relationship Communication Gap: A woman’s boyfriend did not understand her confidence, which increased the misunderstanding and distance between the two. It was not just about commuting, but there was lack of communication in the relationship. In love, no guesswork, clear words are necessary.
Breakup Story: He asked to meet and I replied in the affirmative. But BF did not understand this and showed his displeasure by not coming to meet her. Not only this, the poor woman kept waiting. The woman shared her story on Reddit. On which people are giving their opinions. So let us tell the complete story of the woman. So that you can also understand what can be the consequences of communication gap in a relationship.
The woman wrote on Reddit, ‘This morning my boyfriend texted asking if he and his daughter could come over to my house at 2 pm. I replied, “sure”. But he took it to mean something else. He canceled coming and went to sleep. When I asked him about this, he said that he no longer wants to put much pressure on me to meet me, because if I really wanted to meet him, I would have said it clearly. That is, he took my ‘sayor’ to mean ‘no’.
I am a straight forward person
The woman further wrote, ‘We know each other for 4 years and are in a relationship for 1 year. I am a very direct person, if I don’t want something, I clearly say “no”. I don’t like talking in such gestures. What hurt me the most was that he assumed that I did not want to meet, instead of asking me directly, “Are you in a good mood, should I come?” I would immediately say, ‘Yes of course.’
But he made up his own story in his mind, changed his plans without telling me, and then blamed me for not doing things right. While I and my children were waiting for him since 2 o’clock.
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Instead of saying sorry he made himself a victim
When I said this, he said that he did not mean to ignore me, he just felt that I wanted to relax. Then he said, don’t put too much emphasis on it now, if you really wanted to meet, you would have told me. That was the breaking point for me. At the end of the conversation I said that I was hurt, I wanted to spend today with myself and my children, and I would talk calmly later. The issue wasn’t that he didn’t come, it was that he assumed without asking that I didn’t want to meet, and when I said it hurt me, he just got defensive instead of saying an apology. I will talk later, but right now I am feeling very tired and emotionally drained. Sometimes I feel that even after a year of relationship, if I have to explain the meaning of sure to someone, then perhaps things are not going well deep down.
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