Parenting After Divorce: Separation of parents has a deep impact on children. In such a situation, some strategies have to be adopted to handle the children emotionally. Here we are telling you 7 such measures, by adopting which you can handle your children in this difficult time.
Co-Parenting Tips: Divorce is not easy for anyone, especially when children are involved. Parental separation has a deep impact on the mental and emotional health of children. In such a situation, it is important that parents take them through this difficult period with understanding and love. If you’re looking for ways to understand and handle your children’s emotions after divorce, here are 7 effective tips that can help you.
talk openly to children
Parents often hide the reason for their separation. Whereas this should not happen. Instead of hiding the truth from children, tell them what is happening in loving and simple language. Giving long reasons can confuse them further, so keep things simple. Assure them that even if circumstances change, your love for them will always remain the same. Don’t make children feel guilty or responsible, and never make them feel bad by badmouthing their partner.
explain according to age
The understanding and emotional needs of children of every age are different. Infants (0-2 years) – They feel the stress of the environment. Maintain their daily routine and loving environment.
Toddlers (2-4 years) – They become more clingy or return to old behavior (like thumb sucking). Reassure them again and again.
School going children (6-11 years): They do not understand whose fault it is. Keep them busy through love, routine and activities.
Teenagers (12+): They may show anger, sadness, or rebellion. Interact with them and let them share their feelings.
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maintain stability
After divorce, what children need most is security and stability. Keep their daily routine (food, sleep, school) regular. Create new rituals and family time at home, so that they feel like the family is still together. Do not enter into new relationships in a hurry. First let the children adjust to the new situation.
Let children express their feelings
Let children feel that they can talk openly about both of their parents. Help them identify and express their feelings with things like an emotion chart or “feeling journal.” If they are stressed or experiencing physical discomfort (e.g. headache, stomach ache), understand that this may be an effect of mental stress. If needed, take help from a child counselor or pediatrician.
Do healthy ‘co-parenting’
Good co-parenting is very important for children. Avoid bitterness or competition towards your ex-partner. Never speak ill of each other in front of children. Make plans for holidays and festivals in advance so that children do not get confused.
take care of yourself too
Self-care after divorce is as important as that of children. Do regular exercise, meditation or journaling. Take adequate sleep and nutritious diet. Talk to a support group or counselor. Only when you yourself remain strong, you can give emotional stability to your child.
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