In these policies, Chanakya has prohibited some actions for the sacred relationship between father and daughter, non-compliance of which can affect the future of the daughter and the dignity of the family. On the basis of Chanakya Niti, six such things are mentioned below, which a father should never do with his daughter, otherwise he may have to face regrets later.
disrespecting daughter’s wishes
It is said in Chanakya Niti that ‘Na yathechchhati tat kuryat putrin per pita if’. That is, the father should not disrespect the daughter’s wishes. It is the first duty of a father to understand the feelings, dreams and aspirations of his daughter. Ignoring her opinion in important decisions like her studies, career or marriage can create a rift in the relationship. According to Chanakya, doing this may weaken the daughter’s self-confidence and the father may have to regret his decision later.
Unnecessary control over daughter
It is mentioned in Chanakya Niti that ‘Naatisanadati Kanya Pita Yah Swachchhaya Charet’. This means that the father should not exercise excessive control over the daughter. It is important to teach the daughter independence and self-reliance. Putting restrictions on his every activity, like meeting friends or choosing a career, can suppress his personality. Chanakya believes that this can hinder the daughter’s development. Only balanced guidance empowers the daughter.
to behave immorally in front of the daughter
Chanakya Niti says that ‘Pita Dharmah Swayam Rakshet Kanya Darishti Prabhavati’ – The father should keep his conduct pure, because the daughter follows him. Father is the first role model for the daughter. Lying in front of her, doing immoral acts or behaving disrespectfully has a bad effect on the daughter’s mind. This not only breaks the dignity of the family, but can also reduce the daughter’s trust in her father. According to Chanakya, such behavior can later cause embarrassment and regret for the father.
Being hasty or careless in daughter’s marriage
It is written in Chanakya Niti that ‘Kanya Daanam Vicharyaam Syat Na Tvarayan Na Chalasye’ – The daughter’s marriage should be done after thinking carefully, neither in haste nor carelessly. A father should be careful in choosing a suitable groom for his daughter. It is important to take decisions keeping in mind his education, values, and future. Social pressure or hasty choice of wrong groom can make the daughter’s life miserable. According to Chanakya, this could be the father’s biggest mistake.
negligence in daughter’s safety
It is said in Chanakya Niti that ‘Kanya Raksha Pita Dharmah, Yatra Na Syat Tatra Doshh’ – Protection of the daughter is the highest dharma of the father and negligence in it becomes the cause of fault. It is the duty of the father to ensure the physical, mental and social security of the daughter. Be it his education, social environment, or emotional needs, the father must always be alert. According to Chanakya, carelessness in security can put the daughter’s future in danger.