It is said in the Relationship Advice that in long -time love is necessary with an emotional connection. Being just a good person does not last a relationship. Users believe that without attraction, love comes in love.
Relationship Story: It is said that love neither sees age nor face… But the question is, is it in reality these things matter in relationships? The answer to this question is hidden in the story that we are going to share here. On the Redit, a young man told how his girlfriend broke her heart after a 5 -year -old relationship, ‘You don’t look attractive, you don’t look like my ideal partner, but I love you.’ So let us first know the whole story and then understand whether such relationships really last for a long time.
Sharing his story on the Redit, a young man told, ‘I am 23 years old and my girlfriend is 22 years old. Our relationship has been going on for the last 5 years. To be honest, my girlfriend is more beautiful than me. I was very lean for a long time and always felt a little insecurity about my looks. She always used to say that she likes my soul, I am a good person, etc.
‘Looks improved after joining the gym’
Then I joined the gym, made muscles and my looks also improved. But in the meantime, on a trip, he gave me the biggest trauma of life. We were sitting on the bed and he said that he finds a boy attractive only because of his looks. She was also saying that it is not that she wants to do something with her, because she is just her classmate/friend. But she considers her looks attractive.
‘I am not like an ideal partner, hearing this shock’
He did not stop here. He further said that he does not find my looks attractive and I am not like his ideal partner at all as he thought from childhood. But still she kept comforting me by saying that she loves me very much and I am a good person. I sat there numb from inside. The heart broke completely. That day I hated myself. I fell silent and we returned from the trip without saying anything. After this, she continued to apologize to me.
Now the question is, what should I do? I have trouble that she does not love me because of the looks, but on the other hand it is also the truth that she loves me heartily.
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What to say of redit user
After this story came to light on Redit, people commented a lot of comments and advised the young man. One user wrote, ‘I don’t think I can live with any person who has told me that I do not find him attractive. After all, why should I waste my time with a person whom I do not like. This seems to be a recipe for pain and habit. ‘ Another user wrote, ‘Such words are very painful. Perhaps he himself does not even realize how much harm he has caused by those words. These things go home in the mind and keep harassing again and again. I don’t think you should live with this girl. ‘
It is necessary to have love and attraction in a relationship
Many users believed that it is not enough to be a good person, but for a healthy relationship, it is necessary to have both love and attraction. The result is clear that the more love and emotional connection in the relationship is as important, the more it is necessary to feel attractive to each other. Otherwise, the relationship is sure to be sour.
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