“When my boyfriend started sharing all the details of our relationship with AI, I lost my trust. But no matter how smart a machine is, the matters of the heart are best understood between humans – an 18-year relationship and a digital drama!”
AI in Relationships: This story is about a 38-year-old woman who has been in a relationship with her 44-year-old long-term boyfriend for the last 18 years. Recently, she discovered that her partner was using AI to discuss their relationship problems. The woman was deeply shocked to see negative things written about herself in AI chats. This experience shows how digital tools can impact trust and communication in a relationship.
AI your opinion
AI does not form its own opinions, rather it reflects what it is told. If a person repeatedly presents his partner in a negative light due to pain, frustration or anger, then AI further enhances that story. Gradually, the user begins to feel that his or her viewpoint is being “vindicated,” when the truth is much more complex and two-sided.
How a negative image hurts relationships
This thinking carries over into real relationships too, when AI responses portray partners as manipulative, toxic, or intentionally hurtful. Empathy diminishes, and every behavior is viewed with suspicion. Even common situations involving children are believed to have an ulterior “motive”.
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Why is the pain of broken trust so deep?
In this situation, the pain comes not just from the use of AI, but from the fact that one partner was judged without his or her knowledge or presence. When someone feels that a completely negative story is being created about them, it feels like an emotional betrayal. This is especially true when the relationship is already struggling with fatigue and distance.
What is needed to move forward
AI may be a tool, but not a solution to relationship problems. If trust is broken, it can only be repaired by human interaction, not by machine. Open communication, setting emotional boundaries, and professional couples therapy may be most helpful in such situations. The decision whether to save or end the relationship will have to be taken by the people involved.
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