Fathers often think that they can say everything lovingly, but it is important for them to know that a father should never say these 5 things to his 13 year old daughter alone, otherwise his daughter may move away from him. Today we will tell you which things can spoil your relationship (Teenage Psychology) and if you do not keep these things in mind, then your daughter will gradually get out of hand.
In fact, during adolescence, children want freedom and respect. They feel bad when their father interrupts or judges them (Judge Karna). If you want your daughter to share everything with you, then you will have to change the way you say things.
These 5 things should be avoided when the father is alone (5 Communication Mistakes)
These five things, if said in private in a tone of criticism or suspicion, can immediately cause a rift in a relationship:
1. Comparing with friends or others: Saying to your daughter, “Your friend is so cultured” or “In our times girls did not do this” directly hurts her heart.
Disadvantages: Comparison will make her feel that you don’t accept her for who she is. She will start lying to you or hiding things from her friends.
2. Interrupting on everything about her dress or body: This is the age of changes in the body, and girls are already uncomfortable with themselves. If you repeatedly make harsh comments on her clothes, or speak on her body weight, it hurts her self-esteem.
Disadvantage: Repeatedly interrupting will make her feel embarrassed and stop talking to you.
3. Making fun of his secret crush or boy friendship: If your daughter musters the courage to tell you about a crush or a boyfriend, the biggest mistake is to make fun of her or blow it out of proportion.
Disadvantages: When she sees that you are making fun, she will hide everything important from you in the future, especially when she really needs help.
4. Intruding into privacy or snooping: Checking his phone, reading his diary or spying on his friends without asking. Even if the father does this out of a sense of security, it is a betrayal of trust for the daughter.
Disadvantages: It sends a direct message that you don’t trust him. If trust is broken, your daughter will move away from you emotionally.
5. Forcing decisions about career or future: At this age children have many dreams in their mind. If you tell her in private, “You have to be a doctor, you have no other option,” she will feel pressured.
Disadvantage: He will feel that he has no opinion of his own. Due to this she may rebel or hide her choice from you.
Then what is the right way?
It would be wise for the father to talk like a friend:
Listen more, talk less: Listen carefully to what she is saying.
Positive communication: Talk about solutions instead of criticism.
Focus on safety: When discussing clothing or friendships, always focus on safety and respect, not judgment.
Remember, maintaining trust is the greatest parenting skill.