Midlife Marriage Problems: Why does there become emptiness in the relationship between husband and wife after children leave home? Read the true story of 20 years of marriage, changing relationships, Empty Nest Syndrome, love and reconnection.
Long Term Marriage Struggles: Often in a long marriage, despite love and trust, there is a feeling of boredom. This situation becomes deeper when children grow up and leave home for studies or jobs and only husband and wife remain in the house. On Reddit, a 42-year-old man has shared this feeling and asked for advice from people. He told how difficult it has become for him to reconnect with his wife after his children left home. Let us know his whole story.
The person wrote on Reddit that we got married at a very young age. We have been together for 20 years. As parents of two children, we have gone through good and bad times together. After having children, we dedicated a large part of our lives to them. To be honest, our relationship was built around our children and we lived for them only. Now the children have gone to college to study. Now my wife and I are at home.
I have no reason to be angry with my wife
This is what is bothering me now. Putting this feeling into words or telling it to my wife feels very strange, scary and a little shameful to me. It is not easy to say that after 20 years of marriage, I no longer feel the same way as I did 15 years ago. You will be surprised to hear that I have no reason to be angry with them. He is hardworking and intelligent. The thought of losing them makes me feel even worse. She knows me so well, like no one else. Despite this I am not able to love him.
Will we have to get out of the mindset of young love?
The 42 year old husband further said that in our daily routine, only getting up in the morning, going to work, saying goodbye and sending one or two messages is left. Whereas life was completely different during college days. Along with studies, we used to spend time with each other. Used to cuddle, play games. I still remember those days a lot. This is where memories both comfort and break the heart. I know that due to age, responsibilities and lifestyle, it may not be possible to return to those days. Although our health is still good, like 10 years younger than our age. Maybe I need to get out of that “young love” mindset now? What is your opinion?
people’s opinion
Reddit users are of the opinion that the most important thing to reconnect in a long-term relationship is to break the routine and do something new together. People suggested that couples should try to date each other again, like planning a dinner date, going on a trip, sitting together after turning off the TV, or making small physical gestures like holding hands. Many users believe that visiting new places, spending time together in a museum, movie or at an event provides new topics of conversation, which is often missing in long relationships. Some people also said that according to science, doing new activities together produces the same chemical reactions in the brain that happen in new love. Overall, people say that love remains green only where it is nurtured with time, attention and new experiences.
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