Cheating Thoughts in Marriage: Just a few months after marriage, the husband’s thoughts and search history broke the wife’s trust. Things like cheating under the guise of wanting children have come up as a sign of serious danger in a relationship.
Marriage Red Flags: Marriage is based on trust, respect and dreams. But when questions start arising on these basic things, the relationship starts to shake from within. A 29-year-old woman has shared her story on Reddit, where after just a few months of marriage, serious doubts arose about her husband’s thinking and intentions. The matter is not just about the number of children, but about the boundaries and honesty of the relationship.
Long relationship, but picture changed after marriage
The woman and her husband got married in early 2025, before which they had dated each other for about five years. Everything seemed normal and reliable. After a few months of marriage, both of them went on a long honeymoon, but during this time something happened which shook the woman from within. She felt that the thinking of someone whom she had known for years was suddenly going in a different direction after marriage.
Second phone and annoying search history
In the middle of the honeymoon, the woman saw some search queries on her husband’s other phone, which were very shocking. The questions were – “Is it bad to have more than one wife?” and “How to convince someone to have kids outside of marriage?” Even if there was no actual cheating, the mere thought of such questions became a deep red flag for the woman. She felt that the husband was thinking of breaking the boundaries of marriage in the future.
Differences regarding children and the thinking of ‘genes’
There were already differences between the two regarding the number of children. The woman has always been in favor of two children, while the husband wants at least three or more. She does not understand her husband’s obsession with “passing on his genes”, especially when they live in an expensive city and it is difficult to support three children with the current standard of living. She fears that this thinking may lead her husband towards the wrong path.
Break in trust and changed perspective
After this incident the woman realized that her “pink glasses” had come off. The small habits which used to be ignored earlier – like interrupting others in conversation or leaving mess in the house – have now started becoming unbearable for him. He has understood that after a breach in trust, even small things start seeming big.
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What next? need for dialogue and decision
Although she has not yet spoken openly to her husband due to security reasons and circumstances, she knows that avoiding the issue is not the solution. Pressure to have children, thoughts of cheating, and emotional discomfort—these are all signs that a serious conversation and perhaps counseling is needed. This story is not just about a couple, but about the question of how to save the relationship or take the right decision when there is a conflict of values. In such a situation, people gave their opinion and said that it seems you should not have married this man… Another user said that this is a big red flag. First of all, both of you are not compatible. Second, he has no problem cheating on you and is planning it. Why are you even asking questions about this? Break up.
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