Five years into a relationship, a woman is struggling with the dilemma of whether her boyfriend’s lack of attention to self-care and cleanliness could lead to a breakup. This story shows the conflict between love, boundaries and peace of mind.
Relationship Self Care Problems: This story is about a 29-year-old woman, who is in a relationship with her 32-year-old boyfriend for the last five years. While sharing her story on Reddit, she says that her partner is a loving, supportive person and always encourages her. But there is one thing which is troubling him from within – his careless attitude towards his own health and hygiene. This very thing is now raising big questions in his mind like breakup.
According to the woman, a lot of tartar has accumulated in her boyfriend’s teeth, due to which he feels uncomfortable even while kissing. She lovingly asked him to visit the dentist several times, even making it clear that she would abstain from physical intimacy until his teeth were cleaned. Despite this, he postpones the matter every time by saying “I will go soon”. This carelessness is now not just a matter of hygiene, but is beginning to seem like a lack of respect and seriousness.
Everyone is not a perfect person
In this story the woman herself admits that she is not a perfect person. She also slacks off on self-care sometimes, but prioritizes her health in the long run. She fears that if she continues to explain, she will become less of his partner and more of a mother. She doesn’t want to change her boyfriend, she just wants to set clear boundaries.
Will breakup be the right decision or not?
The question is not why he doesn’t go to the dentist, but whether he takes his health and his partner’s concerns seriously or not. Breaking up just for this reason isn’t crazy, but it should be a last resort. If the situation does not change even after a frank conversation and discomfort persists in the relationship, then it is not wrong to choose your mental peace.
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What is people’s opinion?
After listening to the girl’s story, people gave their opinion and wrote that no, this is not madness. Just the thought of kissing someone with a rotten mouth makes me feel nauseous. This is not madness. Another user said he looks just like my husband and it’s only going to get worse. If he does not pay attention to this now, all his teeth will get damaged, and due to poor diet and excess weight, he may also get diabetes. Another user wrote, Why are all the women saying that their husbands/boyfriends refuse to go to the dentist?!? Can anyone tell me something about this: is this normal? Do men not go to the dentist?
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